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“You can only become accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead pursue the things you love doing and then do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off you.” Maya Angelou“
So, after an afternoon of shopping the children and I are beat. We decide to stop at Chick-fil-a to grab a bite to eat. I notice there is a both next to the play area for children. We have a seat next to a group of individuals as we speak before having a seat, I then notice they were writers Don Murray, Mary Karr, and Anne Lamott. I hear them talking about their upcoming plans on new topics. I turn around and introduce myself and asked if they mind if I asked a few questions about being a new writer. They offered me to join them at their table. Then proceed to let me know they were just talking about The Writing Process.
I proceed to tell the trio that writing is NOT one of my favorites but once I start a topic that I've never done it gets more interesting. My only problem is knowing how and where to start. What is it that sparks you guys interest, how do you get started? Don scratches his head and said, “There must be time for the writing process to take place and time for it to end. The writer must work within the stimulating tension of unpressured time to think and dream and stare out windows, and pressured time—the deadline—to which the writer must deliver.” Anne takes a sip of her drink and says, “Beginners always try to fit their whole lives into ten pages, and they always write blatantly about themselves, even if they make the heroine of their piece a championship. Racehorse with an alcoholic mother who cries a lot. But beginners are learning to play, and they need encouragement to keep their hands moving across the page.” Mary pointed to Anne agreed and went on to say, “Before you can work consciously, though, you go through a phase of developing a critical self, which makes a writer wicked self-conscious. Some students in our three-year MFA program come in defending every word; by mid-term second year, the more determined ones find themselves in despair at their own pages.” I say to the trio, “I must admit this conversation was very helpful and informative for my English Composition I class. I’m so glad I got the chance to chat with you guys. The knowledge you guys have given I will be sure to apply it in my next writing.” In comes my middle daughter saying, she’s ready to go. As I say, GOODBYE and proceed to leave Don hands me his business card followed by Anne and Mary. They let me know it was fine to call/email with any questions, to proof read or anything in writing I needed help with.
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Who am I? Most days I’m mom or Biancia and other days I ammmm …............ some days I don’t even know. What I can tell you about me is that I procrastinated to do this damn blog assignment and I still don’t know if I'm doing it right or not. I have a few questions that I answered from The Proust Questionnaire that will also give you a little idea about who I am. __1.__What is your idea of perfect happiness? My idea of perfect happiness is when you find happiness within yourself. __2.__What is your greatest fear? My greatest fear is leaving this earth and leaving my children to fend for themselves. Nobody or no one will love them and take care of them like their mother. __3.__What is the trait you most deplore in yourself? The trait I deplore about myself is the fact that I allow my kindness to be taking for granted or as a weakness. __4.__What is the trait you most deplore in others? The trait I deplore in others is when they don’t have empathy for others. __5.__Which living person do you most admire? The living person I admire the most is my mother. __6.__What is your greatest extravagance? My greatest extravagance would be spending way too much money on fast food/takeout. __7.__What is your current state of mind? My current state of mind is all over the place. I can NOT catch focus. __8.__What do you consider the most overrated virtue The most overrated virtue to me is Religion. No one is perfect and I don’t like when one judges another. This goes for ALL religions. __9.__On what occasion do you lie? I try my hardest not to lie. Sometimes I got to. Lol, for instance if someone ask do you like their hair or shirt and you say YES because they like it and you don’t want to hurt their feelings. Knowing you don’t like it or wouldn’t wear it. __10.__What do you most dislike about your appearance? What I dislike about my appearance is my mean look. Since a child people think I'm mean because I have a serious face to them. __11.__Which living person do you most despise? I despise mothers and fathers who abandon their children. Then get mad when the child grows up to have questions. The want to know why and they play the blame game. __12.__What is the quality you most like in a man? The qualities I like the in a man are respect, loyalty, communication and the list could go on. __13.__What is the quality you most like in a woman? I like to see woman be able to uplift one another and support them. __14.__Which words or phrases do you most overuse? “PERIODT” and “it is, what it is” __15.__What or who is the greatest love of your life? Is it possible to have TWO? My children’s father who passed to gun violence 4/6/2014. __16.__When and where were you happiest? I believe I was the happiest when I was with my oldest children father and when my grandma was living. The past for year and half years I’ve been trying to find my happiness again and it’s been a struggle. __17.__Which talent would you most like to have? I’d like to be able to forgive myself as much as I forgive others. __18.__If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be? Being able to let things go and leave them where they are. Stop being the one to always try to fix broken relationships. __19.__What do you consider your greatest achievement? My greatest achievement is being a great daughter, mom, sister and friend. The achievement I would like to achieve next is retaining a degree or two. __20.__If you were to die and come back as a person or a thing, what would it be? If I was to die and come back I would want to be a fly on a wall or a bird. To watch over my babies. __21.__Where would you most like to live? For years I've always wanted to live in Atlanta, Florida, and California. __22.__What is your most treasured possession? My most treasured possession are pictures/visual memories of my loved ones. __23.__What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery? Not being able to tell my loved ones how much I love. __24.__What is your favorite occupation? Right now I’m a nursing assistant and I loved being in retail. __25.__What is your most marked characteristic? My most marked characteristic is my smile. __26.__What do you most value in your friends? Honesty and fairness. My friends become family. __27.__Who are your favorite writers? I honestly don’t have any. __28.__Who is your hero of fiction? I don’t have any. __29.__Which historical figure do you most identify with? I don’t have one but if I did it would be Sojourner Truth I am for woman’s rights. __30.__Who are your heroes in real life? My mother and children. __31.__What are your favorite names? Gaven, Gabbriellle, and Sariyah. __32.__What is it that you most dislike? I dislike when texts are misread and lack of communication. __33.__What is your greatest regret? I regret not taking my babies to the barber shop to see their dad one last time. __34.__How would you like to die? I’ve never thought about that. I do know I don’t want to suffer. __35.__What is your motto? “Stop stressing over things that’s out of your control”. |
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